Reason's, Season's, Lifetime

There is a saying that states that people come into your life for a Reason, a Season, and a Lifetime. Its not up to us to decide who comes and goes. Of course, we do play a part in the relationship's, but no one can foresee the future. There are many different Reason's why some come and go. A lot of it depends on your personal situation. In my experience, my reason's have ranged from having one common interest, working for the same company, having a similar goal in mind to reach, or maybe just the want of having a friend at the time. Sometimes you welcome the company, sometimes you don't. But there is always some reason. These people go just as fast as they came. No harm done. Maybe they used you. Maybe you used them. Either way, there is no big worry over the relationship ending, it just is.

Next, you have those who are there for a Season. These are slightly longer than the previous relationships. These usually bring a lot more emotions and feelings along with them. There are bigger lessons to be learned, larger love to be lost, and connections harder to break. A lot of times, they are happy times. In my case, I was in love with a woman for five years. Looking back at it, most of the time I was with her, I had no real complaints. We spent our time together sharing, learning, growing, and loving each other and life. But, there came a time when all of that came to an end. I was upset for a time, and truthfully, to a certain extent, I still am. But, that is what I have to go through. It was only a part of my life. I also ended a relationship with a friend of almost ten years. I thought our friendship would last forever. We did everything together. We were like brothers. We had so much in common. We went through good and bad times. We all played our part. We are who we are today because of what we shared. I'm glad for it. I'm a better person, a smarter man, and so much stronger. We all took something away from our relationship's but it came to an end.

Then, you have Lifetime relationships. A strong emotional connection usually comes along with this one.There are many emotions evolved because they last for so long, so there are many up's and down's, but overall, they are worth having. There are many life lessons involved with these relationships, some used now or maybe later in life. A recent example of this in my life is with my Uncle Idan-ni'e M'ba Yer. I was around him as a child, saw him growing up, but did not directly have much contact with him as a teen or an adult, until right now. This time I have been spending with him has been an eye opener for me. It seems that after all of the crap I have been going though, when I was so lost and confused, my dear Uncle came through and taught me much needed lessons. Everything he has been telling me has been very timely for me. He is passing down his personal life lessons to me, like a King to a Prince. I spend most of our time together just listening. I want to know everything he has to tell me. I can hear the love in his strong voice, can see it in his piercing eyes. No joke, he stare's right at me, making sure I understand. I do, and I feel so much powerful. Many of my several Uncles have seemed to have encouraging words at different times in my life, and they always deliver it right on time. I respect everyone of them as strong men, and I have always taught myself to be like them, even from far distances. When I do spend time with them, I notice all of the similarities we have, especially the one's I never noticed while growing up.

I know that I have a lot more connections ahead of me. I will play a part in many people's lives. I hope I leave a good legacy, but no one is perfect. I guess i'm just starting to realize, and come to terms with, why people I always thought would be in my life are now not. I understand that we all have parts to play. No hard feelings. No harm done. Just part of life.

 Peace and Love